Do you feel frustrated or worried by how things have been going

between you and your spouse?

Couples counselling can help you resolve your feelings about your relationship

and learn the tools to create a more peaceful and positive way of relating.

One of the most painful and frustrating things to deal with in life is when a relationship with a loved one is experiencing difficulty. 

You may have been bumping up against the same issues over and over, and may be struggling to find a way to resolve them. 

Discussions may be degenerating into painful arguments or long silences that leave you feeling hurt, confused and hopeless. 

Or, you may have been feeling disconnected from your spouse lately.  Perhaps the stress of life’s daily pressures—work, children, in-laws, money—have been the focus for too long. 

Maybe you haven’t been making much time for the relationship—other things have been getting in the way--and it shows.

Do you:

• Regularly face the same conflicts and don’t know how to find a way through them?
• Feel disconnected from your spouse and want to heal the rift that is between you?
• Think that you and your spouse are speaking a different language?
• Feel unfulfilled in your relationship and wonder what to do about it?
• Want to learn the skills that will make your relationship happier?

It is important to know that even the best relationships have challenges.  Conflict is normal in relationships and can provide us with helpful information about what needs to change. 

However, sometimes people get trapped in doing things the same way over and over again—even when it doesn't work. 

And--many couples feel ashamed about revealing their problems to someone else, and then wait too long to get help.

This doesn’t have to be you!

Working with an effective counsellor can help you identify and shift unhelpful patterns--so that you can move through the struggles and find your way back across the distance between you.

As a couples counsellor, I am trained to help you through this process, and our sessions are completely confidential.

I will help you listen to each other—and take that skill home with you. 

In our work together you will have the opportunity to open your hearts to each other again—and learn how to keep them open. Although the process is not always easy, it's worth getting unstuck!

I’ll help you:

• Hear what each other is trying to say
• Communicate through the tough times
• Negotiate your natural differences, whether in gender, personality, or background

Ultimately, my hope is that you can:

• Fulfill yourselves AND the relationship 
• Put the spark back into your connection

"We now know how to disagree without it becoming a major event. We are also very aware of our own behaviors and how it makes the other person feel." ~Names Withheld, Victoria, BC.

I would like to help you:

• deepen the trust and intimacy in your connection.
• have a close relationship without giving up your own dreams.
• create the kind of relationship that you want.

I know this shift is possible—I’ve witnessed it over and over with the individuals and couples that I’ve worked with. 

“Tamara’s presence is filled with genuine caring and authentic compassion with a playful curiosity of the possibilities of creativity, passion and healing.  If you are looking for a bridge to rediscover your highest self in relation to others, she will journey with you by your side.” 

–Jim Kragtwyk, M.Ed., CCC, 5Rhythms® Movement Psychotherapist, Victoria, BC  

Whatever is going on in your lives, counselling can help you learn how

to create a happier relationship — and have the love you want!

I have training and experience in Gottman Marital Therapy and with The Couples Institute and use these approaches and techniques to help you get to the heart of your relationship challenges and find a way through them.

It warms my heart and inspires me to witness people rekindle their mutual trust, respect, curiosity, and passion.  I would be honoured to be a witness to and companion on your healing journey together—for whatever amount of time you might need me.

If you would like to find out more about how we could work together, or to book your complimentary 20 minute couples counselling consultation, call 1 888 504 4111 or email tamara@inessencecounselling.com

(Even if your spouse is unable or unwilling to come to counselling, one person’s commitment to self-growth can bring powerful changes into the relationship. If this is the case, you may want to consider individual counselling.)

Looking forward to talking with you,

Tamara Mortimer